Showing posts with label Poulston. Show all posts
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Day four: 3 May: Totnes and Berry Pomeroy


After a walk with Jane and Fudge and the usual luxurious breakfast with plenty of decent coffee (Russ – note this for your future reference please – this is what people have for breakfast) I set Francoise for Totnes via Exeter and said goodbye to everyone who was up. Which was all those under 10 and over 16.

Jamie told me most of the roads would be dual carriage-way, which was less worrying than a motorway, but as it happened I did end up on an M5 sort of road later. The thing about the motorways in England is that they are very very safe. Because people can travel at any speed they like, they are not constantly distracted by looking in the mirror for cops and jamming on the brakes ever time they see a black and white car. The only thing that really puzzled me was that they had speed camera warnings on the motorway so I am not sure what they were looking for. Just in case they were worried about slow drivers, I kept my speed up. The lights at the roundabouts had me flummoxed but I got through them okay and somehow ended up in Exeter. I parked my car in a tower of some sort, visited the cathedral, and actually found my way back to the car park and located my car again. I was a bit disappointed in the cathedral though I don’t really know why, as I usually love them. The astronomical clock was good (a bit old though) but the Gothic wasn't as high as I had imagined it to look. Apparently Hickory Dickory Dock originated here.

As I got further south out of Dorset and into Devon, I saw a lot of thatched roofs (Margaret's family did them). The roads were incredibly narrow in places, with hedges on each side, so Very Worried and I took things quietly. Several times I drove up a narrow street the wrong way and then had to try not to look silly. Many streets were only big enough for one fairly slim car. We made it into Totnes safely, but couldn't find a park anywhere close to where we wanted to go, so we parked somewhere we didn't want to go instead. Which is how we found the amazing organic supermarket down a back street, where I bought falafels for my dinner and a small bottle of Mateus. There were heaps of organics shops around, and the place had a sort of wholemeal bread and organic apples feeling. I bet the locals wore macrame underwear.

Eventually I decided to look for my B&B at Berry Pomeroy and got lost, but oddly, turned up at Higher Poulston Farm. It was mostly cottages for holiday-makers, but I found the farm part with dairy cows and a tractor or two, and lots of mud. I felt very important wandering around what was surely my property, as I am a Poulston and the visitors probably weren't. I wanted someone to ask me what I was doing there so I could explain that it was my family farm, but no-one took any notice of me. So I took a photo of the gate and the cows, and left. I had travelled thousands of miles to inspect it and my job was done.

The B&B was clean and good but I had forgotten my dongle (a Vodafone gadget that finds the internet wherever you are) so I couldn't do any work. I washed my clothes, ate my falafel and and drank the Mateus and several cups of tea, then went for a walk. I found a road that had a castle at the end of it, but decided to go back the next day by car, as walking on such narrow roads is a bit nerve-wracking - there was nowhere to run if a car decided to use the same bit of road as me. The church-yard was very good, but apart from that and a couple of houses, there wasn't much to the village worth reporting on. Actually there wasn't much to the village.

Day three: 2 May: Poole

Being still on New Zealand time I had it in mind to get up early and take Jane a cup of tea in bed, but she was up with the flatulent sparrows too, so we went for an early morning stroll with Fudge, the not so young hound. Jane and I don’t spend enough time together for our liking so we were very pleased with ourselves and for keeping our secret from Amy. We talked about the usual sorts of things sisters-in-law talk about when they get together, such as why the pines in Bournemouth make people feel tired, and addressed the health, relationships and education matters of various members of the family. Our conversations must remain secret, so if you want to know more you will have to wait for our memoirs.



Jamie took me to Bournemouth to collect my car, which disappointingly was not red, even though I had especially noted this as a request on my online booking. I also slightly resented that they thought I might have an accident as the car had VW written on it at the front, which I think stands for Very Worried. I therefore took out full insurance just to be sure. I shook for the first few minutes of driving, mostly because I wanted a pee, but also, because I fully expected the English roads to behave differently to ours, and be sort of soft and billowy to drive on, or perhaps turn into large crevasses and swallow me up. Fortunately they didn’t do either of those things, and before long I had learned to trust them, and drove more or less as I do when at home. I had been warned that Britain is a surveillance society, and watched out for the speed cameras. The English are so careful they even have lights at some of their roundabouts, and they are frankly roundabout crazy. I hate roundabouts, because when I go into them I can never work out how it is that I can turn left without hitting the person in the left lane. Someone explained it to me once, drawing it on paper for me, but I wasn't convinced. I know it doesn't work, because I often get tooted at when I turn left, and sometimes have to go around twice as I am too scared to get off. I had loaded up Francoise (my GPS) with Western Europe maps, and Jamie had marked his house as my UK home in case I got lost, so it was just a matter of following the voice instructions (called Jane) and maps to my UK home. I have no idea where I was or how I got there but it worked. I parked Very Worried neatly in their drive alongside the BMWs and she tried to look comfortable there and sort of succeeded, being the same colour. Grey.

Frankie and Jamie's place is a kind of Waterloo station, with all kinds of friends and relatives coming around all the time, so I finally met Jane’s and Jamie’s mother, Jill. I felt comfortable with my initials, as they are the same as theirs. I even gave Jane (Poulston) my hotmail name a few years ago. Jill was lovely – I do wish I had met her when she was younger, as she seems like someone who enjoys a party. It was also wonderful to meet Amy's cousins Mike (who is very funny) and Charlie (who looks just like Edwin), and I knew I would be sorry to leave them the next day.

Later in the day, when everyone had gone home, Jane packed up some stuff for Russ, so I stuck a wee note in amongst it to say hello. He sure does have a tea problem – she sent him about four enormous boxes of PG Tips. Perhaps there isn’t any tea at France and/or he’s tired of their wine. It must be hard working on the hard all day, which is where their boat is.

Frankie showed me her garden – I was pleased to see they had some flax in it. I saw a red fox in the garden, from inside the house, and a squirrel (which was not in the house). Frankie says squirrels are just rats with fluffy tails, but as I like rats that didn’t put me off. They are very cute and I think if Annie could keep a squirrel she probably would, although perhaps Falcor wouldn't like that.

We had had a good day with lots of people for lunch and all kinds of stuff going on, but Jamie wasn’t satisfied with that – we also had to go and meet his mistress at the yacht club, and have a drink there. We went outside and huddled pathetically in the red cape mum gave me a couple of weeks ago, but stayed long enough for me to see that their boat had all the usual boatie attachments such as a mast and sails and stuff. I was very relieved about that, and now I worry less about their safety.

The photo is of us having breakfast/lunch/dinner/coffee. Note Jane at the kitchen sink polishing a boat propeller. She has some very odd habits.

Next instalment:Finding Poulston Farm

Day two: 1 May: Poole - waking Amy

This is a picture of Amy, my brother's daughter, and my favourite blonde niece. As you can see she looks a lot like me, except for the hair colour. Her mother invited me to stay with her brother Jamie, and his wife Frankie. We really like people called James in our family. It's my father's third name (after Edwin and Alfred), so my daughters Annie and Rosie both have partners called James. You would think that Jane's parents might have more imagination than to call one of their kids James as well, but they did. And his mother is called Jill. No imagination, as I said. But I digress.

Jane suggested I catch the bus from Heathrow to Bournemouth. Now if you have done your homework and read last year's blog, you would have noticed that I went to Bournemouth by mistake then, and knowing Jamie lives in Poole (Annie says it is pronounced Pu-ill) I wasn't going to be conned into going there by mistake again, so I checked, and sure enough - if you want to visit someone in Poole you have to go to Bournemouth. England is a funny place.

The bus to Bournemouth had a dunny (called WC) at the back. I spent most of the journey wanting to have a pee and wondering if I pulled the chain at an intersection and rushed out quickly, I would see my pee as we drove away. I was too scared to try, and anyway, I had my bag on my knee in case someone stole it. My bag, not my knee, silly.

Jane collected me much to my relief, as I had now traversed the world without error, being passed from husband to sister-in-law without a hitch. I shared a brief moment of pride with my alter ego as I got off the bus. Jane laughed at my large red suitcase but I explained that one needs a lot of shoes in different shades of red for an academic conference. When we got to Jamie and Frankie's, I went upstairs and woke Amy from her afternoon nap (poor lass had jetlag) but so as not to confuse her, I told her I was her Aunty Yoga. My sister Yoga is heaps older than I am and looks quite different as she has grey hair and round glasses. Amy is smart and knew it was me but couldn't quite get a grip on why I was there. She lives in Vancouver and I live in NZ so I guess it was a bit odd that we should meet in Surrey. She is my absolutely favourite blonde niece, as I said (if you had paid attention I wouldn't have needed to tell you twice).

I was pleased to have my Francoise me GPS with me, all loaded up with Western Europe maps, but the interior of their house wasn't on it, which was shame, as it was quite large and I needed a navigation system to find my way around. They had a lot of visitors as well, and it took me several hours to work out exactly which ones were my hosts and which were their children's friends etc. Even the dog had a guest around for dinner, though I think he just got canned food.

Last time I was supposed to visit them, Jamie killed the fatted lentil for me, but as I had stuffed up my itinerary (http://poulston.blogspot.com/2009/05/12-may-stroud-to-bournemouth.html
he had to put it back in the freezer for this year. Actually it was very good, and didn't taste a bit like my mother's ice-cream, which usually spends a year in the freezer before we eat it. He cooked a wonderful Indian meal, and I scoffed it happily, having been without a decent meal since somewhere over Croatia. I managed to stay up until 9.30 by watching slides on tv and sleeping on every fourth one, then waking in time to answer a question and then surreptitiously slipping into sleep again. I was very happy.

Next edition: Poole - learning to drive in England

11 May - Gloucester

I heard the sparrows farting when I got up, as Stroud is a quiet little spot. The Indian gentleman was watching Indian tv when I came down for my breakfast, but he boiled me some nice eggs (eventually - I had to send them back for extra time) and let me tuck in to a hearty breakfast. I had in mind before I left home this would be a good time to drop a kilo or two, but I needed my energy for the walking, so took advantage of the large breakfast. He and his off-sider wore dirty tee shirts but they smiled a lot and were quite helpful. He told me I was his only house guest. I wasn't surprised. I explained to him that it might be a good idea to get someone in to do some cleaning some time.

I found the train (it wasn’t hard, as the railway line was next to the hotel) and settled in for the half hour ride to Gloucester. I was tres excited. This was the day I would find my ancestors in the Gloucester Archives. I had a map, and followed it carefully to the archives office, which was only 5 minutes’ walk from Gloucester station. I photographed the sign outside, as I had plenty of time to spare in Gloucester as it turned out, the archives being closed on Mondays. I took it quite well really. After half an hour of rattling every window in the building and peering suspiciously inside to see if anyone was furtively getting a private reading of the archives, I beat my retreat and went off to find the family research office instead. Nasty old archives office. They probably didn’t have anything interesting in there anyway.

The family research people were very nice and even let me take photos of the computer screen with all the Poulstons on it, providing I didn’t show you. So I won’t. I learned, as I suspected, that my ancestor Edwin Poulston was in fact born of a Celia or perhaps Sarah Poulson (the name was hard to read), at the Stroud Union Workhouse. We couldn’t find her father or mother, but perhaps next time I am in Gloucester I will pop in to the archives office (not on a Monday) and see what they have.

While I was there I checked out Harry Potter’s church as well (Gloucester Cathedral) but missed the Beatrix Potter museum, not being a rabbit. When I got back to Stroud I went to the council offices and found that they had cemetery records for Hannah and Thomas Poulston, but I was quite circumspect looking for them, as the lady in the council office explained that someone had been bitten by an adder in the cemetery a couple of years back, and to take care. She also suggested I keep an eye out for badger holes. Fancy Mista Badger having rellies in Stroud as well. No wonder we got on so well together. It is indeed a small world.

I couldn’t find the graves, but I photographed the site where they were, and made a sound file of the graveyard, as the birds were chirping happily and making a lovely din. I walked up to the Workhouse and took some photos. It's a trendy set of apartments now but it must have been pretty dire when the Poulstons were living there. We're a noisy lot.


Towards the end of the day I noticed that this was my last not at work day, as I would have to head towards the south coast next for my conference. I really wanted to go to Glastonbury to see what I could see there, or even to Stonehenge, which fascinates me. Fancy putting all those big stones up there just so you could see where the sun lands and mid-summer. Amazing. I don’t think people could have done it, so I wonder who it was. So I had all this in mind when I washed my knickers and socks out, made a few pathetic attempts to get my dongle to work, and then had a glass or two of wine and shuffled off to bed.

I made a recording of the birds preparing to go to bed, but I can't work out how to post it. I was told many years ago by Glenn, that the reason the birds chirp in the morning is that they are pleased it is a good day, and they have several hours of worm eating to look forward to, and the reason they chirp at the end of the day, is that they have finished their work.

10 May - Bristol to Stroud

Roger and Doreen have two sons who have bought a house together and live locally, but only one was able to come and visit. Actually it wasn’t me he came to see – he came with his mate Ben to put a light in the loft, which was very entertaining. It took a while longer than expected (these things always take time!) so Roger kindly offered to drive me to Stroud instead of just to the local railway station. I had found what I thought was a salubrious hotel in Stroud at the same price as my bed and breakfast in Dublin, so I was confident of having a comfortable stay. The countryside is quite gorgeous, with lots of green grass (like home) and English trees (also like home). I was in the Cotswolds, which as we know, are very beautiful, and renowned for their private guest houses. I hoped I would be in one, and imagined sinking into deep abysses of goose down duvets, cosseted in Egyptian linen clad European pillows, and placated with a continual stream of tea and scones. Good.

It wasn’t really like that. The London Hotel, down by the railway line near the supermarket, was run by a nice Indian gentleman who couldn’t operate the credit card thingummy and gave an overall impression of incompetence at a level I never imagined existed. He was awful, but engaging in a funny kind of way, because he was friendly and tried to be helpful. I checked the room and despatched my kind hosts, not wishing to worry them, and also, because I hadn't really noticec how dirty the place was. Some time early in the afternoon my new host managed to get the credit card thingy to work, and I was able to go to my room. It was a bit dirty, but the good news was that I had my own bathroom, complete with the usual array of soaps and shampoos. The old body wash container from the last guest was on the shower base, but I managed to push it away with my feet during my first shower and not focus on it. The carpet hadn’t been vacuumed in several months at a guess, but I kept my shoes on and was careful not to drop any food on the floor. I think the bed was clean, but I didn’t take any risks and slept in my Cotton on Body pyjamas. I washed my knickers and socks (I bet you’re glad of the detail) and headed off to Stroud main street to see what trace I could find of my ancestors.

My father, Edwin Poulston, was born in 1919. His father, Edwin Poulston, was born in 1885, and his father (I bet you can’t guess his name...) Edwin Poulston, was born in 1853, and his father, Edwin Poulston (yawn – not many names in our family) was born in 1826. In Stroud. Well all I could find was an Edwin Poulson born in 1826 in Stroud but his mother was called something like Celia Poulson, and she lived in the Stroud Union Poorhouse. So I wandered around Stroud pulling the weeds off the graces in the cemeteries and looking for evidence of my family, until finally I found the town cemetery (after taking several wrong turns as usual, thereby circumnavigating the village), just below the old Poorhouse (now a set of apartments). I pulled weeds off and rummaged through the undergrowth, but found no sign of my rellies, so concluded that I would have to go to Gloucester the next day to check the county archives and see what they could tell me.

I finished the day happily with a new bottle of red wine, and a new salad, both of which were substantially cheaper than the same things in Dublin. The main thing wrong with Stroud though, was that my dongle would not pick up a connection, even though I tried it out at various points in the hotel, and tested the Vodafone reception around Stroud on my phone- Stroud was a phone-free village. Nice for those who don’t like mobile waves whistling through the air, but no so good if you wanted to talk to someone. Stroud is quite hilly, being in the Cotswolds, and has a lot of little steep streets (steep little streets?). I was very taken with a spot called the Shambles (reminded me of home), as the word 'shambles' apparently derives from 'slaughterhouse'. You see, it was worth reading to the end of the blog just to learn that!


6th May: Bristol to Accrington, Lancashire

I was really enjoying my train trips, though I found the booking and ticket retention a bit stressful. My trip to Accrington gave me an opportunity to see the changes in architecture and environment. The beautiful terraced houses I had seen in Bath turned into row upon row of red-roofed terraced houses, which from a distance had quite a depressing look about them, as there were no trees or variation of building style (1st photo). Another change I noticed as I got further North was that the large franchises and chain stores became more obvious. In small towns places like Starbucks and Subway were fairly low key, but regulations seemed less restrictive further north, and more signs appeared everywhere. I gradually realised that English roads were not littered with bill-boards like the New Zealand roads are, which is why they look more attractive. In New Zealand, a car journey is somewhat akin to reading a magazine of advertisements, unless of course one is in Glenorchy, which has few bill-boards. Glenda Fryer and her team tried to tidy up Auckland and remove some of the signs, but the business people complained that no-one would find them, so the signs stayed. It's hard to find the business for the signs now - a sort of wood and trees phenomenon I suppose.

On arrival at Accrington I wandered up and down the main street until I found the tourist information office, which I assumed would advise me on the right place to stay. There were brochures, but no staff, and the brochures sold tours, not advice on accommodation. So I wandered up and down again, asking questions at likely looking places, until I settled on a bed and breakfast called Colney House (2nd photo), opposite 261 Blackburn Road (3rd photo), where my great grandfather, John Lonsdale once lived. He was born in Clayton-leMoors, just down the road, and at the time he was living in Blackburn Road (1881), my great grandmother lived in the Adelphi Hotel, about 10 minutes away by foot. The house I stayed in was apparently built for George IV's mistress, who must have been very fit, and the stairs were steep and narrow, and the building was several stories high. Perhaps that’s why she was so popular with the king, as she must have had lovely muscular legs. Once I had lugged my two heavy bags up the stairs (the landlady had a bad back….) I set out to enjoy my afternoon.

Accrington is a mill town, but the mills seem to have closed. As some of my ancestors were weavers and cotton workers, I wandered around the outside of one or two, wondering if they walked the same streets a century earlier. Many streets had small lanes behind them, similar to those I saw in Vancouver, where Russell and Jane live when they're not on their boat (ref Poulston Antigua blog!). The lanes were dirty and littered with beer cans, bottles, cigarette packets, dried up sludgy stuff, and what seemed to be household rubbish (4th photo). No doubt I was looking at the 2008 version of what my ancestors saw a century ago when they passed this way. I bet my grandmother had to pick up her skirts to keep the hems clean, as washing in those days must have been a real drag – although now I think about it, they did have a servant, so perhaps it wasn’t granny’s drag, but the servant’s. I noticed a sign pointing to Clayton-le-Moors, just a mile or so down the road, so I followed it, but I was getting tired, having already walked several miles. I had come across some churches, but the town being full of Moslems, two were actually up for sale (5th photo, but recently removed for not being interesting enough). I took a photograph as evidence of my trip and observations. I also found the Adelphi Hotel (6th photo) where my great grandmother, Annie Baron lived, in the 1881 census. She was with her half brother and sister, Bridge and Martha Baron, and Bridege's son, Bridge junior. The girl working in the bar didn't know my family. She had studs in her eyebrows and around her face, and her hair was a pretty green, similar to the colour of my brother’s budgerigar, Peter. He’s dead now (Peter, not my brother), this being some 45 years ago. She had sort of Rastafarian hair, and was well decorated with brightly coloured clothes. I asked if I could see upstairs, explaining my claim on the hotel, but she was unimpressed, and refused my request. I walked about the bar a bit, and bought gin for old times’ sake (I bet my ancestors drank gin there). Everything was quite old – a sort of red quilted seating around dark tables that were very sticky. I guess the barmaid was kept busy enough decorating herself, without having to clean the tables as well. I took several photos, including one of her.

The walk to Clayton-le-Moors took me up a hill that had a decent looking pub at the top, so I stopped for a glass of wine, some tacos, and a salad. The Mexican food confused my sense of time and place – it all felt very odd. Except brief conversations with the landlady, the barmaid, and the waiter, all of this was conducted in silence, which allowed my imagination to run freely, which I enjoyed. I found my way to Clayton-le Moors and explored yet another churchyard, hoping for some evidence of my family, but found none. By this time I was well and truly stuffed, so took a bus back to town and returned to Blackburn Road. I took some photos of 261, as well as the Pakistani barber who now worked there. Although I wanted to go upstairs, not being familiar with Pakistani barbers’ habits, I decided not to ask. I was pleased to get to bed.

5th May: Bristol with Chrissie

Chrissie put today aside to help me discover Bristol. This was extremely generous of her, as she had already spent a day touring me around Bath etc, and was now going to host my discovery of my / our ancestral roots. We walked around the river area and enjoyed lunch there, then visited St Mary’s of Redcliffe, where she been a bridesmaid for a relative – I think it was her uncle Billy Hazell, but I am not sure. The church was spectacular – high Gothic and wonderful stained glass windows. We also visited Small Street where my grandparents lived and where my father was born, as well as Heber Street, where our great grandfather lived. We photographed the house opposite where number 29 would have been, next to a panelbeater’s yard. We could see the shape of the houses as most were still intact, so it was not difficult to imagine our great grandfather coming home to work after a day working as a cooper; I bet he smelt awful. We tried to visit an address picked up from a genealogist interested in our family (Gillets) but found there was no such address. I wrote to my contact later that night and asked them to check their information. I felt quite important and knowledgeable, sort of ‘at the source’. My paternal grandmother was Rose Gillett, descended from a Huguenot called Jacques de Gylet. The Gilletts went to America at some stage, so my 13th great grandfather is John Billington, a passenger on the Mayflower. I must remember to mention this when I am in America - no-one seems impressed in New Zealand. Billington had the honour of being the first man to be hung for murder in America, but as my daughter Rosie says, it was probably an act of self defence. Never-the-less, I suspect it pays not to cross the Gilletts.

I tried to buy wine for dinner but they said they had plenty, so we sat down at their beautiful long table and enjoyed yet another meal with the lovely linen. The next morning Chrissie took me to the station for my train to Accrington, in Lancashire so I could visit places my mother’s family lived. I felt very sad to say goodbye - she and all the other cousins had given me a truly wonderful time, and I just wasn't sure when I would see them again.